Why You Need Mentors and what makes them valuable
By Cassandre Pierre
You cannot know everything there is to know about how to get where you want to be in life or your career. Having a mentor or guide will help you shorten your learning curve.
While it’s possible to learn the needed skills, this will take time and likely a lot of money. Instead, what if you had someone (or a group of people) who can help guide you to success?
Like most newbies you’re probably unsure on what is the purpose of even having a mentor?
What do you gain from having a mentor?
Imagine you are about to embark on a journey and like most smart travelers you want to be prepared. Having a mentor is like having a guide, that will help you avoid pitfalls and common mistakes. They can provide helpful advice, introduce you to a network of professionals you otherwise wouldn’t have access to, encourage your own personal growth and development.
What are the qualities of a good mentor?
The qualities of a good mentor are as follow:
- Ability and willingness to communicate what you know. …
- awareness. …
- good listener
- attentiveness. …
“One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination.” — John C. Maxwell
What are the roles and responsibilities of a mentor?
A mentor is someone who currently is where you want to be. The relationship you have with a mentor can be an official one, or it can be informal such as following in the footsteps of someone you admire. Mentors have experience and have gone through the growing pains towards success. They will know what kinds of training you may need or skills to develop.
More importantly, mentors can give you needed feedback on what you are doing right and wrong during your development. This kind of advice is invaluable. You don’t want a mentor who will hold back.
Make sure you give them full permission to be completely honest with you. Most worthwhile mentors will have no problems doing this for you. It may be a hard pill to swallow, but you will be better off than having mentors who sugarcoat your progress. That won’t help you in any way.
“My mentor said, ‘Let’s go do it,’ not ‘You go do it.’ How powerful when someone says, ‘Let’s!’” Jim Rohn
What skills do mentors need?
The mentors you choose should have the experience or skills you desire to learn. Be sure to ask lots of questions about what they expect from you and ask what you can expect from them.
This expectation is important. Otherwise, you won’t have any means of knowing whether the mentoring relationship is working.
If someone you are considering to mentor you take issue with you asking these questions, this is a sign they may not be right for you. It can also be more difficult to sever the relationship once it has begun.
Alternatives to traditional mentors
When I was first starting out one of the things that I found difficult was finding a mentor, in the traditional way. I had a lack of transportation at the time, so I had to get creative.
There are few ways to gain a mentor, through a
Most people wouldn’t think that having a mentor that’s not physically accessible to be a choice. But due to the internet, it is quite possible. Although I may not know them on a personal level, they still have a positive impact on my life.
I have come across a few individuals that I consider my “virtual mentors”. Each individual has a message that resonated with my past and current station in life. I found that the substance of their message was just as important as the delivery. Here is a small list of my own “virtual mentors”
- Darren Hardy (Darrendaily)
- Anna Macko (Loving not working)
- Stephan Pylarianos (Kmoney mastery)
- Brendan Burchard( millionaire messenger)
- Neil Patel (online marketing)
- Lewis Howes
- Alex Sky (Boss babe)
- Regina By Regina
- Natalie Lussier
- Marie Forleo
- Paul Scrivens (Dare To Conquer)
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” — Steven Spielberg
Then there are the mentors that are long gone, but their work and legacy continue to inspire and help a new generation. Their message is considered evergreen and still applicable to the times. A few examples that come to mind is Jim Rohn and Dale Carnegie I consider them as “legacy guides”.
The most common forms of their work would be in the form of books.
Being part of a community of like-minded individuals is another alternative to mentoring. In this case, you may gain more than one mentor or accountability partner. What is great about this, is that the majority of the individuals are coming together under a common purpose.
Some have knowledge and experiences that you may not yet possess and are willing to share, provide feedback in real time, and answer questions that you may otherwise find difficult to discover on your own.
I for one can attest to benefiting from being a part of a community. I was at a point of giving up on blogging professionally. But, once I came across this group and the program that is easy to apply to any business than I knew I made the right choice.
So if you are looking for a group of like minded individuals who understand what your trying to accomplish and the make the journey less lonely. Check it out for yourself.
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” — The Bible
What you need to focus on when looking for a mentor is one that possesses the qualities and level of success you aspire for. Someone who is still in the industry and knows the the in and outs of your niche.
But, overall someone who is accessible to you in whatever shape or form that takes place. Please also use your disrection when selecting a mentor because it is important you not waste your time or theirs if they are not a good fit.
“A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself.” — Oprah Winfrey